As New Parents
Becoming a new parent is one of the most exciting and challenging times in your life. Whether you’re having your first, second or third child, remember that every baby and family is different, so it’s important to do what works best for you. In addition to the tips below, make time for yourself. It’s much easier to be a good parent when you recognize that you need to care for yourself too.
Get your sleep
The importance of sleep.
How much sleep babies need and what to do if they don’t get enough.
Helping your baby to sleep better (and yourself).
How to cope with lack of sleep in the first few months, and how to deal with insomnia when it strikes later on.
Sleep disorders such as narcolepsy and restless leg syndrome; snoring; obstructive sleep apnea in children; bed-wetting; night terrors; nightmares—all are covered here in detail so that you can help your child or teenager overcome them if they arise at night, rather than being roused by their crying out in distress (or worse still having no idea why they’re crying out!).
- Talk with each other
Communication is the key to a happy marriage, family, and life.
Talk to each other about your feelings and thoughts.
Talk about your hopes and dreams.
Talk about your fears and worries.
Talk about your goals in life together as a couple (and individually).
You will want to be as affectionate with your child as possible. It is important that you and your partner do the same with each other. Touching is a form of communication, so when you touch each other it helps you feel closer to each other and also closer to your child.
4. Be flexible
When you’re a new parent, it’s easy to get wrapped up in what you want and how things should go. But don’t forget that babies are unpredictable, so be prepared for all kinds of changes—and don’t take them personally! Your baby might want a different position than usual while breastfeeding, or they could decide that they don’t like the position at all and kick off their blankets as soon as they reach their goal. If your baby is crying because someone is walking down the hall in front of their bedroom door or because there are too many people talking over him/her during storytime, these little disturbances can really disrupt everyone’s day-to-day schedule. Just remember that everyone has bad days—even your newborn!
5. Take time for yourselves
As new parents, it’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day routine of caring for your baby. It’s important to take time out of that routine to do things that help you relax and recharge.
Don’t forget about each other! Take time to do something enjoyable together as a couple, whether it be dining out, watching a movie or doing something active together like hiking or biking.
Have some time alone — it doesn’t have to be long but just enough so you can enjoy yourself without worrying about what needs doing around the house or being bothered by your kid(s).
Take some quality time with your child outside of their bedroom: go for walks together; read books; set up a play area for them somewhere safe outdoors (if possible); play games such as tag and hide & seek; do puzzles together; etc..
6,Talk about intimacy and romance
When you’re in love, it’s easy to take intimacy and romance for granted. After all, the honeymoon period lasts longer than the average vacation. But when you have a baby together, things change. Suddenly you’re exhausted and have less time for each other—not exactly ideal conditions for getting intimate.
To stay connected as a couple after having a baby (and before your next one comes along), make sure to talk about what each of you wants from the other and how to make that happen. Asking questions is key here: Do you want me to rub your feet? How often do we need to be naked together? What do I need from her so that she will start sleeping through the night?
Discussing these issues will help keep the conversation going long enough for both parties’ needs and desires to bubble up into consciousness (or at least within earshot).
7. Express your feelings to each other
The first six weeks of your baby’s life are a whirlwind of joy and exhaustion. You’re learning how to juggle everything that comes with caring for a newborn, but there will be times when you feel overwhelmed or confused. It’s important to remember that your partner has been feeling the same way you have—and even if they don’t say it out loud or show it in their actions, they’re probably equally worried about everything going on.
A great way to stay connected during this time is by talking through your emotions with each other—about what you’re both feeling and what’s happening in your relationship as it changes because of parenthood. Talking about these things can help keep them from becoming problems later on down the line!
Being kind to yourself will help you be the kind of parent you want to be for your child.
The first thing you need to know is: You are not perfect. There will be times when you feel like your parenting skills could use some work. The good news is that the more children you have, the better your parenting gets!
That said, there may still be days when it feels like nothing is going right and everything is wrong. You’ve been up for hours and hours with a sick child—it’s exhausting! And sometimes even well-meaning people tell us things like “it’s okay if he/she cries” or “they’re just babies–they don’t know what they want anyway.” These kinds of comments can make us feel like we’re failing as parents. But take a deep breath, because here’s something else I learned from my experience as a new parent: Being kind to yourself will help you be the kind of parent you want to be for your child.
For many couples, things get back to normal within six months after giving birth. If there are still problems after this time, don’t be afraid to ask for help from a professional counselor or therapist. These can be valuable resources for working through any issues you may be having as a couple and as parents. Try out some of the tips above and see how they work for your family!